A Leader's Prayer

Written on Monday, November 22, 2010 by Siddharth PV

A LEADER'S PRAYER
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* Adapted from "An Administrator's Prayer", Harvard Business Review, Jan-Feb, 1957

Grant me the self-awareness to know honestly what I am, what I can do, and what I cannot;

Grant me the judgement to channel my energies into those avenues which best utilize my abilities and do not require talents which I do not possess;

Grant me the wisdom to admit error cheerfully and learn from my experience, that I may grow and develop and avoid repetition of mistakes;

Grant me humility to learn from others, even though they be younger, less experienced, or of humbler station than I;

Grant me courage to make decisions whenever they are necessary and to void rashness when they are not;

Grant me the sensitivity to judge the reactions of others that I may modify my actions to meet the needs of those affected;

Grant me the consideration to recognize the worth of each individual, and to respect all those with whom I have contact, neither stifling their development nor exalting myself at their expense;

Grant me the perspicacity to acknowledge that I can be no more effective than my subordinates enable me to be, and to deal with them so that they can help me by helping themselves;

Grant me the tolerance to recognize mistakes as a cost of true learning and to stand behind my subordinates, accepting my responsibility for their actions;

Grant me the insight to develop a personal philosophy, that my life may have more meaning and satisfaction and that I may avoid capricious action under the pressures of expediency;

Grant me the patience to live realistically with my circumstances, striving always for the better, but recognizing the perils of too rapid or too drastic change;

Grant me all these things, dear Lord, that I may live a more useful life, through serving my fellow men, and, through them serve you.

The Beginner's Mind

Written on Wednesday, November 10, 2010 by Siddharth PV

From the 'Speaking Tree' Column in the Times of India on Saturday Nov 6, 2010

A Beginner's Mind - Marguerite Theophil
http://tinyurl.com/2vpojrd

Some Excerpts:

* Shoshin, a concept in Zen Buddhism meaning beginner's mind, refers to having an attitude of openness, eagerness, and lack of preconceptions when learning, even when studying at an advanced level.

* People get impatient with their slowness in figuring out something different; or they cannot bear to display their own early incompetence, that is so necessary before one can get better.

* 'I know' attitude - A friend humorously yet perceptively called it "the point of know return".

* Shunryu Suzuki's explanation, captures it best: "In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, in the expert's mind there are few."

* "Don't-know is the warrior's wisdom." At crucial moments, it can help you take a step back and allow you to respond to the situation as it truly is. Beginner's mind can keep you open to new possibilities and break old habits of responding, taking you closer to what you truly want.

The idea behind this approach is that you take all of the things you know – your expertise, opinions, reason and logic, even your cherished beliefs – and you put them all away.
Notice: you don't throw it all away; you just 'empty your pockets' of them for a while. Later you can put them all back in. The thing to understand is that there is as important a place in our lives for "I don't know", as there is for "I know".

Most of the time what we 'know' are our assumptions of what might possibly happen, or experience and judgements about similar situations, or conclusions we came to on previous occasions.

But real learning takes hold in the here-and-now.
It happens in the moments of fumbling, in the flashes of success, in the natural plateaus we mistake for 'nothing happening', and in progression of skill and competence as we plod on. Focus on either the past, as in "Oh but i learnt this or that so much faster", or the future, even surprisingly in the much-valued goal setting process, as in "I need to get really good at this by this date", often can and does create mental obstacles for us.

To cultivate beginner's mind, some things we are invited to do are – let go of old stories; set aside expertise and status; take one step at a time; immerse yourself fully in the moment; focus more on questions than answers; fall down seven times, get up eight.

Dare to Dream & Explore

Written on Monday, October 18, 2010 by Siddharth PV

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.\
 
Explore.
Dream.
Discover.
 
 - Mark Twain

Heroes and mentors

Written on Saturday, October 16, 2010 by Siddharth PV

An interesting post from Seth Godin

Heroes and mentors

Mentors provide bespoke guidance. They take a personal interest in you. It's customized, rare and expensive.

Heroes live their lives in public, broadcasting their model to anyone who cares to look.

The internet has created a long tail of heroes. There are tens of thousands of musicians, artists, entrepreneurs, social leaders, politicians (okay, maybe not thousands of these), coders and colleagues to find and emulate. WWHD. What would my hero do?

I find heroes everywhere I look. I find people who speak to me over my shoulder, virtual muses, who encourage me to solve a problem or deal with a situation the way they would. This is thrilling news, because there are so many heroes, so freely available, whenever we need them.

For all the people out there using the fact that Jeff Bezos (or Jacqueline Novogratz or Husain Abdullah or Chris Anderson or Anne Jackson) won't be their mentor as an excuse for inaction, there are a dozen who realize that their example is enough.

Like a custom made suit, a mentor is a fine thing to have if you can find or afford it. But for the rest of us, heroes will have to do.

Some thoughts..

Written on Tuesday, September 14, 2010 by Siddharth PV

1. Life is a marathon..
You have to realise that whatever choices you make today, they will affect your long term in some way.
So you always need to have a long term perspective.

2. Its not about how many projects you executed..
What matters is the number of projects you executed well.
So, you might pick up a single project at a time - but make sure you execute it well.
No point in picking up multiple projects at once.

3. Think Macro and also execute micro..
Have the ability to think at a macro level - look at the bigger picture and take decisions that will lead to long term gains.
But at the same time, have the ability to execute at the micro level.
Develop the ability to do both simultaneously.

Some thoughts to live by..

Written on Sunday, September 12, 2010 by Siddharth PV

Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities.

~ Norman Vincent Peale


Great minds discuss ideas
Average minds discuss events
Small minds discuss people

~ Eleanor Roosevelt


Where the mind is without fear

Written on Friday, July 16, 2010 by Siddharth PV

WHERE the mind is without fear and the head is held high

Where knowledge is free

Where the world has not been broken up into fragments

By narrow domestic walls

Where words come out from the depth of truth

Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection

Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way

Into the dreary desert sand of dead habit

Where the mind is led forward by thee

Into ever-widening thought and action

Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake.

 

- Rabindranath Tagore

'Networking'

Written on Sunday, July 04, 2010 by Siddharth PV

So how does one go about networking? Of course - by getting to know people.
And what is the best way to get to know people?
I am told that 'talking to people' is a good way. But on second thoguhts, are conversations/discussions compltely reliable?
Cant conversations be 'engineered' to suit the need?
Haven't we all been exposed to the ease with which one can 'lead'  a discussion to achieve pre-determined outcomes (a desired 'image', a perceived 'persona', etc)?
Of course - this is not to say that conversations are futile - just that they may not be the best solution..
 
Instead, how about sharing common experiences?
What if you find yourself in the same situation as someone else? Wont the other person's response tell you a lot about his nature/perspectives vis-a-vis your nature?
Working with someone on solving a common problem could tell you a lot about the person's attitudes, approaches, strengths and weaknesses.
Most importantly, if you are put into a unforseen situation with someone, aren't the chances higher that evryone will react in their most natural ways possible?
This will effectively highlight people's inherent natures as they wont have the opportunity to 'cook up' the 'right' responses.. Most likely - people will end up just 'being themselves' and this will help in really understanding them better.. In fact, such experiences could end up completely changing people's pre-decided / pre-determined 'images'...
And this would help one chose his networks better!
 
So, having understood this, one could go about facilitating his 'networking' in 2 ways:
1. Pray and hope that he gets a chance to share many interesting 'experiences' with all the folks in the MBA program..
2. One could actually 'design' a way to bring about such experiences.
 
So here's to looking forward to successfully organising/planning many interesting 'experiences' in the times to come..
I am sure they will help me build better networks in the long term

Of Dreamers and Doers...

Written on Saturday, June 12, 2010 by Siddharth PV

"Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that all was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes, and make it possible."
T.E. Lawrence

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of hi...gh achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
Theodore Roosevelt

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Also posted to So Spake the Wise Men... at 6/12/2010 01:57:00 AM

Thoughts - Wake Up Sid

Written on Wednesday, June 02, 2010 by Siddharth PV

I just saw the first 15-20 minutes of Wake UP Sid - the movie and something which struck me instantly about Sid's character was the simplicity in his decision making. He seemed like someone who has kept life really uncomplicated for himself. No wonder then that he was able to take decisions so easily. And at some level, I did feel very very envious of him. I look at myself in the past few weeks and I see that my thinking has been becoming more and more muddled - my decision making more and more convoluted - and it wasn't this way at all times. Surely something needs to be put back in order.

Frankly, I do not want to get into the nitty-gritty of whether Sid's attitude towards life was correct – to each his own, I say. What I want to focus on is what made it possible for Sid to take the decisions so easily? And how can I go (back) to such a state?

The reason that Sid could take those decisions so fluently was probably that he had his motivations absolutely clear. He knew himself and what he wanted very well. As a result, he could act in accordance with his heart rather easily. And acting in accordance with one's heart / one's basic motivations is one of the most liberating experiences. If you are truly acting in accordance with your heart, you act without the overhanging sword of any doubt. You give it your all because the motivation for the action comes from one's basic nature and motivations – it is not driven by any false pretenses, external influences, etc.

Now, when I look back at my recent actions/decisions and single out the decisions / actions which I was not completely satisfied with – I realize that those decisions/actions were very highly influenced by my environment. That is probably the reason that I have not been feeling too happy about those decisions/actions.
It's time to set this right. After all, if I don't clear up this surrounding clutter (environmental influences) right away, I will probably lose touch with my basic motivations (typical case of the signal getting lost in too much noise).

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Of course – I am not saying that one should not listen to others' inputs (opinions / views / reviews). That would be a folly. But one must be on guard and avoid these inputs from becoming unconditional influences (sometimes its ends up being that way out of sheer repetitiveness).
In fact, I believe it is important to seek feedback. But one must take it objectively and not let it become an overarching dictat.

Invictus

Written on Monday, May 17, 2010 by Siddharth PV

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley

Harsha Bhogle on Excellence

Written on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 by Siddharth PV

Excerpts from Harsha Bhogle's speech at IIMA - this speech was part of a series of seminars at IIMA called 'Face to Face with Achievers of Excellence'.
You can check out the entire speech here:
http://vimeo.com/1746368 - Part 1 of the speech
http://vimeo.com/2104109 - Part 2 of the speech 
Excerpts:
* I had this feeling of inadequacy - of how everybody else was better than me. But IIMA accepted me for who I am. That is a huge feeling.

* I will talk based on what all I have allowed to come into my system over the years.

* Ambition needs a driver - sometimes the 'ends' provide the driver.

* There are 2 approaches -
1. the end as a driver of ambition
2. the journey as a source of joy

* The end as a driver of ambition often is a source of anxiety - adds to the degree of turbulence / entropy.
Sometimes, the focus on the end removes the focus from the means - are we treading the right path?

* They gave Yuvraj Singh a different set of goals which helped him succeed.

* People come to IIMA to build careers - not to earn a starting salary.

* One of the easiest ways to excellence is to work as hard as you can and to do your best whenever you can.

* Harsha Bhogle on the tour of Australia - worked for free, wrote ghost columns for Border. Take care of the runs - the dollars will take care of themselves.

* Chase your performance goals - chase your professional goals - let the result take care of itself.
Perfect the process of performance - dont allow the pressure of the result to choke your performance.
Eg. of the above concept: The swimmer in lane 4 has no control over what the swimmer in lane 5 is doing. If he starts worrying about it (something he has no control over) then he's spoiling his performance.

* Everything I have done is because I have loved it.

* Adherence to ethics helps you to have peace of mind.

* Focus on execllence in preparation and performance. Set yourself perfromance goals, not result goals.

* Give everything your 100% - give every moment 100%.
You never know who's reading what - you never know who's watching what - you never know where's the next big opportunity is coming from - that's the beauty of giving your 100% every single time.

* Quran: Lord helps those who give their best.

* When we lose - we seek excuses. People who are excellent never say - I was great BUT..
That just means you are putting the blame on somebody else. This means, you are not great already.

* If 'being wrong' is in your possibility map, then you do go wrong..

* Never grudge anyone their success - cos when you are successful, they will grudge your success.

* How do you motivate yourself to do No. 40 after you have done 39 eisodes? You tell yourself that No. 40 is all I have wanted to do!
There is a certain pride is giving everything a 100% every moment and to everything.

* Always seek people who are better than you. The moment you surround yourself with people who are NOT better than you - you stop growing. For a very selfish reason, always surround yourself with people who are better than you.

* When I started out, I had no one to look up to. I had no heroes. So I hung around with the crew. My hero was the was cameraman who said 'I have never missed a stumping in my life'. My heroes were all technicians.

* When we reach a certain level, we start surrounding ourselves with smaller people. Or - we start hating criticism. on the path to excellence, it is always very crucial to have people around you who can tell you whether you are doing right or wrong.
DONT EVER MARRY A FAN. Marry a girl who will tell you whn you are wrong. Only then will your marriage survive.
* Arrogance often comes in the way of excellence.

* Playing non-striker:  I was willing to be a non-striker. I wanted to be extremely good at something - I knew I couldn't be the best batsman. I genuinely wanted to be a great fielder. I wanted to be a very good fielder.

* Initially I tried to compete with the other commentators. They all asked 'How much cricket have you played?'
But I dropped my ego and said that what I want to prove is that I understand the game very well - and for that I dont need to have played a lot of cricket.
Besides, if I make my guests on the show more comfortable, they perform better.
So, part of my job is to make Sunil Gavaskar look better..

* If you have ego and anger on your side, you dont need an opponent. I try not to have an ego.
Subjugate the self - lose the EGO.

* I love what I am doing. I have the greatest job in the world.
* Beyond a certain level, ability or talent is the most useless virtue to have. What matters is attitude. Beyond a point, talent is not useful as it doesn't solve problems - it breeds an ego. Its important what you do with that talent.

* Some people have always used their talent to succeed. So they dont know how to succeed in case you failed.

* Everybody in the top 10% will have the same talent. So what's your USP?
You work ethic and attitude counts for far far more than your talent.

* Sachin played 55 days in a row - that's attitude! Tendulkar's work ethic, attitude and passion produced the 55 hundreds. Talent might open the firt door, second door - but surely not the last door.

* When you make a mistake, what's the first reaction? The more mistakes you make, the more you know what not to do. Excellence is as much about knowing what to do - as about knowing what not to do.If you can be excellent at not knowing what NOT to do, you will know what to do.

* Everybody in life is allowed to make mistakes - it is the second or third mistake that you are not allowed to make.
* Excellence is about desire: 'I'll not let a single ball go past me.' ; 'Hit one more to me'

* To excel in a profession, you need to know everything about the profession -
When I entered television, I told myself - I will learn everything that is needed to be learnt.

* What is luck?
      You make things happnen for yourself.
      It is a combination of preparation and recognition.

* Are you willing to work your backside off when no one is watching? It not only means you are ready for the opportunity when it comes - but it also means that you are earlier to spot the opportunity.

* 'During the football worldcup in 1986, Gary Linekar happened to be in the right position because he knew what the right position was.'

* Lance Armstrong: I dont win the Tour De France on the last day. I win it when I am riding in thee mountains in the winters when nobody wants to ride.
* Are we willing to work even when the opportunity is not obvious?

* Excellence raises its game when the moment comes. Excellence is about humility. If you are not humble, you will not be willing to hang around, to do the things it takes to seize the opportunity when it comes.

* Did I make my luck by calling?

* Being excellent is also about having the confidence to share knowledge - if you are not comfortable sharing knowledge, you are insecure. Excellence is not insecure.

* Some of us never know how good we can be. People who have achieved excellence have always been ready to stretch their own limits. (When will you be ready to take chances? When you are ready to face the results - when you are sure of yourself.)
'Let me try and see what happens. What is the worst thing that will happen? You'll fail. Are you scared of failure? You will also know what you cannot do. All of us learn by trying.
* Excellence is always in the present. Sometimes, we are too anxious about the future - sometimes we are too caught up in the past. You must make the most of what you have now. People for whom the past is more glorious than the present will never succeed! Excellence lives in the present.

* 'Khudi ko kar buland itna,
   Ki har taqdeer se pehle khuda tujhse pooche,
   Ki bataa teri raza kya hai?'

Himmat Karne Waalon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti..

Written on Wednesday, April 07, 2010 by Siddharth PV

A poem by Harivanshrai Bachchan:

Lehron Se Dar Kar Nauka Paar Nahi Hoti
Himmat Karne Walon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....
Nanhi Chinti Jab Dana Lekar Chalti Hai
Chadti Deewaron Par Sau Baar Fisalti Hai
Mann Ka Vishwas Ragon Mein Sahas Banta Hai
Chad Kar Girna, Gir Kar Chadna Na Akharta Hai
Akhir Uski Mehnat Bekar Nahi Hoti
Koshish Karne Waalon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....
Dubkiyan Sindu Mein Gota Khor Lagata Hai
Ja Ja Kar Khali Haath Laut Aata Hai
Milte Na Sehej Hi Moti Pani Mein
Behta Duna Utsah Issi Heiraani Mein
Mutthi Uski Khali Har Baar Nahi Hoti
Himmat Karne Walon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....
Asaflta Ek Chunati Hai Sweekar Karo
Kya Kami Reh Gayi Dekho Aur Sudhaar Karo
Jab Tak Na Safal Ho Neend Chain Ki Tyago Tum
Sangharshon Ka Maidaan Chhod Mat Bhago Tum
Kuch Kiye Bina Hi Jai Jai Kaar Nahi Hoti
Himmat Karne Walon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....

Nandan Nilekeni : On Freedom, De-construction and Being Resourceful

Written on Tuesday, March 09, 2010 by Siddharth PV

Nandan Nilekeni in conversation with Subroto Bagchi of Mindtree for the Zen Garden column in Forbes India.
Some excerpts here. Link to the original article:- (link)

SB: A lot of people fall short of their potential because they have inherent difficulty deconstructing themselves. Deconstruction is the ability to press a “reset” button at periodic intervals.
NN: Never thought of it like that but now that you say it, it is so true! I think in many instances I have pressed my “reset” button. From Bangalore to Dharwad and when I went from Dharwad to the IIT and then on to my professional career — it was another reset button and now this work is the latest reset in my life. So, I think my early experience gave me the self-confidence that I could go into a different environment and pull it off; that I can press the reset button.
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SB: Have you ever felt that life is about to destabilise you?
NN:
Yes, it has happened to me many times. Each time, I knew I am at the precipice, I have simply hunkered down, I have set myself to rethink everything and then I have gone back to make sense of what I am doing, to reflect on what has gone wrong here, how did I mess it up, then how do I solve the short-term problem of getting back my stability and then the long-term need of not repeating the mistake.
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SB: How does one hunker down?
NN:
You build capacity. It is a gradual, practiced process. You look at crisis in the context of the bigger goal. Suddenly, your setback does not look that big anymore. When you step back and see things in the context of your long-term goal, it helps you to re-calibrate the size of the problem. It is not that it is an inherited trait or something — I have learnt it over the last 30 years.  The other thing is that I just do what I need to and I do not worry.
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SB: A little while ago, you spoke about your “toolkit”. Show us your toolkit.
NN:
I have very strong analytics. I can step back from the problem, detach and look at it from another person’s view. I constantly re-evaluate my priorities and focus. I learn from mentors constantly. I have built a huge network. My network is not just within the software industry.  Through my network, I find that I am amplifying my capacity. I think the key thing for a leader is to amplify his capacity.
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SB: Tell us about how you model your network.
NN:
My model is Open Source. Ultimately, if you have a genuine interest in the other person, the bonding is immediate.  That is number one. You back that up with good memory. That is not easy. If I meet a person, I recall about the person instantly. My ability to reconnect is instant. I back it up with homework. I remember when I went to Davos and was meeting with 20 chief executives, I had their full bio-data with me. I prepare for it. The other part of networking is the linkages. If I meet someone today and meet another person tomorrow, and if I feel they both can add value to each other, I link them up. There is a biblical statement, “You cast your bread in water, and it comes back to you.”
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NN: I feel that “Freedom is having nothing left to prove”.  That is freedom. That is the capacity to do what I have to do.

Fear of being misunderstood

Written on Sunday, February 28, 2010 by Siddharth PV

I am on my way back from Chennai where i had gone for my personal interview for XLRI. As i sit back and think about the interview, i am a little worried the panel might have misunderstood me. I am not so worried about being selected/rejected. Frankly, i am past the stage where i used to think that a degree could make or mar my career. I am sure that mba or no mba, eventually i'll make it good. But being misunderstood surely scares me.
One of the questions where i am afraid i might have been misunderstood is-




Q- So you switched from TCS to irunway.. And your salary jumped by X%.
(he calculated X wrt my current salary.. No wonder X was significantly large)
My Answer- yes sir, but over a period of two years....

And unfortunately this is where i stopped.. Or i guess the topic got changed.. I never explained that my real motivation for moving to iRunway was the profile.. In fact, when i first moved, my salary was nowhere close to my current package. In fact, the cost of staying independently had almost offset the increase in salary and the increment in my monthly take home was hardly anything to write home about.
But the sad part is, i never explained all this. I just said 'it has increased over time'.
Besides, i had also mentioned it amongst my long term objectives that i want to build a strong financial foundation for my family...
Just hope that the panel doesn't (wrongly) put 2 and 2 together and picturize me as a money-crazy guy who's doing his mba to chase a bigger pay package..

This is the problem with short interactions.. You might end up making unfair conclusions about people because you heard only one aspect of the story.. The short interaction did not leave enough time to explore the various layers to the person's answer.


My take away from this episode is-
When you haven't really 'interacted' with someone, you should avoid making any judgements about them. Its important to give people a chance. On the other hand, one must prepare adequately for such interactions. To me, it feels equivalent to faking it (at some level) as you are not being your natural self. But i guess there's no way out..

Skepticism v. Cynicism

Written on Friday, February 12, 2010 by Siddharth PV

What follows is a small excerpt from the commencement address given by Tom Friedman (the author of the 'The World Is Flat') at the Williams College, MA in 2005.
Btw, the address is titled 'Listen to your heart' and is really worth reading..
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Skepticism is about asking questions, being dubious, being wary, not being gullible, but always being open to being persuaded of a new fact or angle. Cynicism is about already having the answers -- or thinking you do -- answers about a person or an event. The skeptic says, "I don't think that's true; I'm going to check it out." The cynic says: "I know that's not true. It couldn't be. I'm going to slam him."
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So, to summarize it, a skeptic is the one who 'questions with an open mind' whereas a cynic 'opines with a pre-conceived notion'..
While the skeptic is actually in search for better info before he can start believing, the cynic is only there to push his opinions..
 
 

Gangu Teli v. Raja Bhoj

Written on Sunday, February 07, 2010 by Siddharth PV

Devdutt Patnaik recently had this great post (link) about the deference between people who just implement and those who dream and ALSO implement.
 
Over the last year, I feel that I have become more of a implementer and lesser of a dreamer. Saying that this is (probably) the result of my working atmosphere would be being unfair - because finally we all are responsbile for what influences we chose.
 
Well - either way, here's a great post that has again reminded me of the importance of maintaing the fine (and extremely critical) balance between just dreaming (a la Sheikh Chilli) and just implementing (a la Gangu Teli - just focusing on acting in the present - looking at the current 'small' picture while completely forgetting about the BIGGER picture). (So in a way, this is also a continuation of my previous post..)
 
Some excerpts from the post by Devdutt:
 
Shekchilli is a dreamer.
 
Gangu Teli does not dream at all. He likes to implement things. He calls himself a 'realist' and focuses on practical things like doing the task and measuring their effectiveness and efficiency. That's what the world should be doing. He has a disdain for dreamers. He is the frontline warrior; he knows. When times are bad, he will be called upon to do the ultimate sacrifice. The buck stops with him as he stands in the market. He is therefore most valued in the immediate term. Since he knows that, he often suffers from an inflated self-importance.
 
Mitti ka Madhav - He is what you want to be. On his own, he is neither. He is a reactive member of the team, doing whatever pleases you, with no mind or opinion of his own.
 
That brings us to Raja Bhoj, the ideal leader, a dreamer as well as implementer.
(He then explains the behavioural difference between Gangu Teli and Raja Bhoj through an example.. really worth reading)
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The Small Picture and the BIG one too..

Written on Thursday, February 04, 2010 by Siddharth PV

The Small Picture and the BIG one too..

The Context:
Its 8 p.m. and I am polishing off another proposal. Just like all others till date, this one also came with a short-ish deadline. We somehow managed a decent (I would like to believe) version and that too about just in time.

I send it across to the big bosses and wait for any changes that might be required. 10 mins pass and the feedback starts:

This assumption shouldn’t be here. Doesn’t make sense.
- I reply saying that I had included it using inputs from the delivery team and as far as delivery goes : who knows better?

Now, 5 minutes later, I sit back and think about the assumption and realise that boss wasn’t wrong after all.

Maybe the assumption was valid – but surely the language needed to be better
(as in – while the assumption made sense from a strictly delivery standpoint - given the BIGGER business context in which the proposal was being sent, it surely did not make sense)

So, why did I not spot it in the first place?

My guess is: when I was busy getting the proposal in place, with all the 10 sections.. with inputs on pricing, exec methodology, etc coming from 3 different sources..
I was more focused on getting the smaller (yet very important) things right...

Is the formatting in place?
Is the English correct?
Is the content complete?

That’s what I was worrying about. I was looking at the document through a magnifying glass, making sure that I don’t miss the minute details – while assuming that the inputs that I was getting were correctly thought through.

But turns out that while thinking about the tactical issues, I did lose the BIGGER picture.

While getting the minute details is mandatory – you do not get any brownie points for getting them right. Its part of ‘hygiene’.

But if you miss the BIGGER picture – you could end up losing the project all together.

So – its mandatory that I quickly master the art of checking the small picture while not missing out on the BIGGER one too.

(I know that I am capable of doing it. Just that the challenge is doing both in a crunch situation where having time is a luxury.)

Read It Like Your Reader Would

Written on Sunday, January 31, 2010 by Siddharth PV

In the last 3 days, there have been a few occasions when I have sent out a mail to mail and somebody (a 3rd party observer) has pointed out possible instances in the mail which could lead to potential misunderstandings for the final reader..

This has led me to add his step just before I finally hit the send button: read the mail like your reader would read it..
I just tried it, and I already think it works!

I guess most people would say that checking your mail in this fashion is a part of protocol..
But I guess I had started giving lesser importance to this step as censoring my own mails seemed tantamount to compromising on my thought process - I was just very concerned about doing complete justice to my thought train.. Tailoring my mail to 'suit' the reader felt like a compromise.. Something I wasn't really cool about.

Well, such a compromise is still not acceptable. So, now while I do review each mail, I do make sure that I convey my thoughts - however dis-comforting they might be for the end reader - but I also go slightly out of my way to prevent mis-communication..

That leads me to the next 'natural' question: should I also tailor my blog posts to suit my friends who read it? Should I change it in anyway to prevent potential misunderstandings?
I guess, the answer is no - I am pretty sure that these friends will be friends enough to comment/mail back in case they need any clarifictaions / or there are any misunderstandings..

Go without them - A great post from Seth Godin

Written on Tuesday, January 05, 2010 by Siddharth PV

Link to the original post: here

One of the most common things I hear is, "I'd like to do something remarkable like that, but my xyz won't let me." Where xyz = my boss, my publisher, my partner, my licensor, my franchisor, etc.

Well, you can fail by going along with that and not doing it, or you can do it, cause a ruckus and work things out later.

In my experience, once it's clear you're willing (not just willing, but itching, moving, and yes, implementing) without them, things start to happen. People are rarely willing to step up and stop you, and often just waiting to follow someone crazy enough to actually do something.

I'm going. Come along if you like.

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A Leader's Prayer

A LEADER'S PRAYER
*
* Adapted from "An Administrator's Prayer", Harvard Business Review, Jan-Feb, 1957

Grant me the self-awareness to know honestly what I am, what I can do, and what I cannot;

Grant me the judgement to channel my energies into those avenues which best utilize my abilities and do not require talents which I do not possess;

Grant me the wisdom to admit error cheerfully and learn from my experience, that I may grow and develop and avoid repetition of mistakes;

Grant me humility to learn from others, even though they be younger, less experienced, or of humbler station than I;

Grant me courage to make decisions whenever they are necessary and to void rashness when they are not;

Grant me the sensitivity to judge the reactions of others that I may modify my actions to meet the needs of those affected;

Grant me the consideration to recognize the worth of each individual, and to respect all those with whom I have contact, neither stifling their development nor exalting myself at their expense;

Grant me the perspicacity to acknowledge that I can be no more effective than my subordinates enable me to be, and to deal with them so that they can help me by helping themselves;

Grant me the tolerance to recognize mistakes as a cost of true learning and to stand behind my subordinates, accepting my responsibility for their actions;

Grant me the insight to develop a personal philosophy, that my life may have more meaning and satisfaction and that I may avoid capricious action under the pressures of expediency;

Grant me the patience to live realistically with my circumstances, striving always for the better, but recognizing the perils of too rapid or too drastic change;

Grant me all these things, dear Lord, that I may live a more useful life, through serving my fellow men, and, through them serve you.

The Beginner's Mind

From the 'Speaking Tree' Column in the Times of India on Saturday Nov 6, 2010

A Beginner's Mind - Marguerite Theophil
http://tinyurl.com/2vpojrd

Some Excerpts:

* Shoshin, a concept in Zen Buddhism meaning beginner's mind, refers to having an attitude of openness, eagerness, and lack of preconceptions when learning, even when studying at an advanced level.

* People get impatient with their slowness in figuring out something different; or they cannot bear to display their own early incompetence, that is so necessary before one can get better.

* 'I know' attitude - A friend humorously yet perceptively called it "the point of know return".

* Shunryu Suzuki's explanation, captures it best: "In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, in the expert's mind there are few."

* "Don't-know is the warrior's wisdom." At crucial moments, it can help you take a step back and allow you to respond to the situation as it truly is. Beginner's mind can keep you open to new possibilities and break old habits of responding, taking you closer to what you truly want.

The idea behind this approach is that you take all of the things you know – your expertise, opinions, reason and logic, even your cherished beliefs – and you put them all away.
Notice: you don't throw it all away; you just 'empty your pockets' of them for a while. Later you can put them all back in. The thing to understand is that there is as important a place in our lives for "I don't know", as there is for "I know".

Most of the time what we 'know' are our assumptions of what might possibly happen, or experience and judgements about similar situations, or conclusions we came to on previous occasions.

But real learning takes hold in the here-and-now.
It happens in the moments of fumbling, in the flashes of success, in the natural plateaus we mistake for 'nothing happening', and in progression of skill and competence as we plod on. Focus on either the past, as in "Oh but i learnt this or that so much faster", or the future, even surprisingly in the much-valued goal setting process, as in "I need to get really good at this by this date", often can and does create mental obstacles for us.

To cultivate beginner's mind, some things we are invited to do are – let go of old stories; set aside expertise and status; take one step at a time; immerse yourself fully in the moment; focus more on questions than answers; fall down seven times, get up eight.

Dare to Dream & Explore

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.\
 
Explore.
Dream.
Discover.
 
 - Mark Twain

Heroes and mentors

An interesting post from Seth Godin

Heroes and mentors

Mentors provide bespoke guidance. They take a personal interest in you. It's customized, rare and expensive.

Heroes live their lives in public, broadcasting their model to anyone who cares to look.

The internet has created a long tail of heroes. There are tens of thousands of musicians, artists, entrepreneurs, social leaders, politicians (okay, maybe not thousands of these), coders and colleagues to find and emulate. WWHD. What would my hero do?

I find heroes everywhere I look. I find people who speak to me over my shoulder, virtual muses, who encourage me to solve a problem or deal with a situation the way they would. This is thrilling news, because there are so many heroes, so freely available, whenever we need them.

For all the people out there using the fact that Jeff Bezos (or Jacqueline Novogratz or Husain Abdullah or Chris Anderson or Anne Jackson) won't be their mentor as an excuse for inaction, there are a dozen who realize that their example is enough.

Like a custom made suit, a mentor is a fine thing to have if you can find or afford it. But for the rest of us, heroes will have to do.

Some thoughts..

1. Life is a marathon..
You have to realise that whatever choices you make today, they will affect your long term in some way.
So you always need to have a long term perspective.

2. Its not about how many projects you executed..
What matters is the number of projects you executed well.
So, you might pick up a single project at a time - but make sure you execute it well.
No point in picking up multiple projects at once.

3. Think Macro and also execute micro..
Have the ability to think at a macro level - look at the bigger picture and take decisions that will lead to long term gains.
But at the same time, have the ability to execute at the micro level.
Develop the ability to do both simultaneously.

Some thoughts to live by..

Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities.

~ Norman Vincent Peale


Great minds discuss ideas
Average minds discuss events
Small minds discuss people

~ Eleanor Roosevelt


Where the mind is without fear

WHERE the mind is without fear and the head is held high

Where knowledge is free

Where the world has not been broken up into fragments

By narrow domestic walls

Where words come out from the depth of truth

Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection

Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way

Into the dreary desert sand of dead habit

Where the mind is led forward by thee

Into ever-widening thought and action

Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake.

 

- Rabindranath Tagore

'Networking'

So how does one go about networking? Of course - by getting to know people.
And what is the best way to get to know people?
I am told that 'talking to people' is a good way. But on second thoguhts, are conversations/discussions compltely reliable?
Cant conversations be 'engineered' to suit the need?
Haven't we all been exposed to the ease with which one can 'lead'  a discussion to achieve pre-determined outcomes (a desired 'image', a perceived 'persona', etc)?
Of course - this is not to say that conversations are futile - just that they may not be the best solution..
 
Instead, how about sharing common experiences?
What if you find yourself in the same situation as someone else? Wont the other person's response tell you a lot about his nature/perspectives vis-a-vis your nature?
Working with someone on solving a common problem could tell you a lot about the person's attitudes, approaches, strengths and weaknesses.
Most importantly, if you are put into a unforseen situation with someone, aren't the chances higher that evryone will react in their most natural ways possible?
This will effectively highlight people's inherent natures as they wont have the opportunity to 'cook up' the 'right' responses.. Most likely - people will end up just 'being themselves' and this will help in really understanding them better.. In fact, such experiences could end up completely changing people's pre-decided / pre-determined 'images'...
And this would help one chose his networks better!
 
So, having understood this, one could go about facilitating his 'networking' in 2 ways:
1. Pray and hope that he gets a chance to share many interesting 'experiences' with all the folks in the MBA program..
2. One could actually 'design' a way to bring about such experiences.
 
So here's to looking forward to successfully organising/planning many interesting 'experiences' in the times to come..
I am sure they will help me build better networks in the long term

Of Dreamers and Doers...

"Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that all was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes, and make it possible."
T.E. Lawrence

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of hi...gh achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
Theodore Roosevelt

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Also posted to So Spake the Wise Men... at 6/12/2010 01:57:00 AM

Thoughts - Wake Up Sid

I just saw the first 15-20 minutes of Wake UP Sid - the movie and something which struck me instantly about Sid's character was the simplicity in his decision making. He seemed like someone who has kept life really uncomplicated for himself. No wonder then that he was able to take decisions so easily. And at some level, I did feel very very envious of him. I look at myself in the past few weeks and I see that my thinking has been becoming more and more muddled - my decision making more and more convoluted - and it wasn't this way at all times. Surely something needs to be put back in order.

Frankly, I do not want to get into the nitty-gritty of whether Sid's attitude towards life was correct – to each his own, I say. What I want to focus on is what made it possible for Sid to take the decisions so easily? And how can I go (back) to such a state?

The reason that Sid could take those decisions so fluently was probably that he had his motivations absolutely clear. He knew himself and what he wanted very well. As a result, he could act in accordance with his heart rather easily. And acting in accordance with one's heart / one's basic motivations is one of the most liberating experiences. If you are truly acting in accordance with your heart, you act without the overhanging sword of any doubt. You give it your all because the motivation for the action comes from one's basic nature and motivations – it is not driven by any false pretenses, external influences, etc.

Now, when I look back at my recent actions/decisions and single out the decisions / actions which I was not completely satisfied with – I realize that those decisions/actions were very highly influenced by my environment. That is probably the reason that I have not been feeling too happy about those decisions/actions.
It's time to set this right. After all, if I don't clear up this surrounding clutter (environmental influences) right away, I will probably lose touch with my basic motivations (typical case of the signal getting lost in too much noise).

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Of course – I am not saying that one should not listen to others' inputs (opinions / views / reviews). That would be a folly. But one must be on guard and avoid these inputs from becoming unconditional influences (sometimes its ends up being that way out of sheer repetitiveness).
In fact, I believe it is important to seek feedback. But one must take it objectively and not let it become an overarching dictat.

Invictus

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley

Harsha Bhogle on Excellence

Excerpts from Harsha Bhogle's speech at IIMA - this speech was part of a series of seminars at IIMA called 'Face to Face with Achievers of Excellence'.
You can check out the entire speech here:
http://vimeo.com/1746368 - Part 1 of the speech
http://vimeo.com/2104109 - Part 2 of the speech 
Excerpts:
* I had this feeling of inadequacy - of how everybody else was better than me. But IIMA accepted me for who I am. That is a huge feeling.

* I will talk based on what all I have allowed to come into my system over the years.

* Ambition needs a driver - sometimes the 'ends' provide the driver.

* There are 2 approaches -
1. the end as a driver of ambition
2. the journey as a source of joy

* The end as a driver of ambition often is a source of anxiety - adds to the degree of turbulence / entropy.
Sometimes, the focus on the end removes the focus from the means - are we treading the right path?

* They gave Yuvraj Singh a different set of goals which helped him succeed.

* People come to IIMA to build careers - not to earn a starting salary.

* One of the easiest ways to excellence is to work as hard as you can and to do your best whenever you can.

* Harsha Bhogle on the tour of Australia - worked for free, wrote ghost columns for Border. Take care of the runs - the dollars will take care of themselves.

* Chase your performance goals - chase your professional goals - let the result take care of itself.
Perfect the process of performance - dont allow the pressure of the result to choke your performance.
Eg. of the above concept: The swimmer in lane 4 has no control over what the swimmer in lane 5 is doing. If he starts worrying about it (something he has no control over) then he's spoiling his performance.

* Everything I have done is because I have loved it.

* Adherence to ethics helps you to have peace of mind.

* Focus on execllence in preparation and performance. Set yourself perfromance goals, not result goals.

* Give everything your 100% - give every moment 100%.
You never know who's reading what - you never know who's watching what - you never know where's the next big opportunity is coming from - that's the beauty of giving your 100% every single time.

* Quran: Lord helps those who give their best.

* When we lose - we seek excuses. People who are excellent never say - I was great BUT..
That just means you are putting the blame on somebody else. This means, you are not great already.

* If 'being wrong' is in your possibility map, then you do go wrong..

* Never grudge anyone their success - cos when you are successful, they will grudge your success.

* How do you motivate yourself to do No. 40 after you have done 39 eisodes? You tell yourself that No. 40 is all I have wanted to do!
There is a certain pride is giving everything a 100% every moment and to everything.

* Always seek people who are better than you. The moment you surround yourself with people who are NOT better than you - you stop growing. For a very selfish reason, always surround yourself with people who are better than you.

* When I started out, I had no one to look up to. I had no heroes. So I hung around with the crew. My hero was the was cameraman who said 'I have never missed a stumping in my life'. My heroes were all technicians.

* When we reach a certain level, we start surrounding ourselves with smaller people. Or - we start hating criticism. on the path to excellence, it is always very crucial to have people around you who can tell you whether you are doing right or wrong.
DONT EVER MARRY A FAN. Marry a girl who will tell you whn you are wrong. Only then will your marriage survive.
* Arrogance often comes in the way of excellence.

* Playing non-striker:  I was willing to be a non-striker. I wanted to be extremely good at something - I knew I couldn't be the best batsman. I genuinely wanted to be a great fielder. I wanted to be a very good fielder.

* Initially I tried to compete with the other commentators. They all asked 'How much cricket have you played?'
But I dropped my ego and said that what I want to prove is that I understand the game very well - and for that I dont need to have played a lot of cricket.
Besides, if I make my guests on the show more comfortable, they perform better.
So, part of my job is to make Sunil Gavaskar look better..

* If you have ego and anger on your side, you dont need an opponent. I try not to have an ego.
Subjugate the self - lose the EGO.

* I love what I am doing. I have the greatest job in the world.
* Beyond a certain level, ability or talent is the most useless virtue to have. What matters is attitude. Beyond a point, talent is not useful as it doesn't solve problems - it breeds an ego. Its important what you do with that talent.

* Some people have always used their talent to succeed. So they dont know how to succeed in case you failed.

* Everybody in the top 10% will have the same talent. So what's your USP?
You work ethic and attitude counts for far far more than your talent.

* Sachin played 55 days in a row - that's attitude! Tendulkar's work ethic, attitude and passion produced the 55 hundreds. Talent might open the firt door, second door - but surely not the last door.

* When you make a mistake, what's the first reaction? The more mistakes you make, the more you know what not to do. Excellence is as much about knowing what to do - as about knowing what not to do.If you can be excellent at not knowing what NOT to do, you will know what to do.

* Everybody in life is allowed to make mistakes - it is the second or third mistake that you are not allowed to make.
* Excellence is about desire: 'I'll not let a single ball go past me.' ; 'Hit one more to me'

* To excel in a profession, you need to know everything about the profession -
When I entered television, I told myself - I will learn everything that is needed to be learnt.

* What is luck?
      You make things happnen for yourself.
      It is a combination of preparation and recognition.

* Are you willing to work your backside off when no one is watching? It not only means you are ready for the opportunity when it comes - but it also means that you are earlier to spot the opportunity.

* 'During the football worldcup in 1986, Gary Linekar happened to be in the right position because he knew what the right position was.'

* Lance Armstrong: I dont win the Tour De France on the last day. I win it when I am riding in thee mountains in the winters when nobody wants to ride.
* Are we willing to work even when the opportunity is not obvious?

* Excellence raises its game when the moment comes. Excellence is about humility. If you are not humble, you will not be willing to hang around, to do the things it takes to seize the opportunity when it comes.

* Did I make my luck by calling?

* Being excellent is also about having the confidence to share knowledge - if you are not comfortable sharing knowledge, you are insecure. Excellence is not insecure.

* Some of us never know how good we can be. People who have achieved excellence have always been ready to stretch their own limits. (When will you be ready to take chances? When you are ready to face the results - when you are sure of yourself.)
'Let me try and see what happens. What is the worst thing that will happen? You'll fail. Are you scared of failure? You will also know what you cannot do. All of us learn by trying.
* Excellence is always in the present. Sometimes, we are too anxious about the future - sometimes we are too caught up in the past. You must make the most of what you have now. People for whom the past is more glorious than the present will never succeed! Excellence lives in the present.

* 'Khudi ko kar buland itna,
   Ki har taqdeer se pehle khuda tujhse pooche,
   Ki bataa teri raza kya hai?'

Himmat Karne Waalon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti..

A poem by Harivanshrai Bachchan:

Lehron Se Dar Kar Nauka Paar Nahi Hoti
Himmat Karne Walon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....
Nanhi Chinti Jab Dana Lekar Chalti Hai
Chadti Deewaron Par Sau Baar Fisalti Hai
Mann Ka Vishwas Ragon Mein Sahas Banta Hai
Chad Kar Girna, Gir Kar Chadna Na Akharta Hai
Akhir Uski Mehnat Bekar Nahi Hoti
Koshish Karne Waalon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....
Dubkiyan Sindu Mein Gota Khor Lagata Hai
Ja Ja Kar Khali Haath Laut Aata Hai
Milte Na Sehej Hi Moti Pani Mein
Behta Duna Utsah Issi Heiraani Mein
Mutthi Uski Khali Har Baar Nahi Hoti
Himmat Karne Walon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....
Asaflta Ek Chunati Hai Sweekar Karo
Kya Kami Reh Gayi Dekho Aur Sudhaar Karo
Jab Tak Na Safal Ho Neend Chain Ki Tyago Tum
Sangharshon Ka Maidaan Chhod Mat Bhago Tum
Kuch Kiye Bina Hi Jai Jai Kaar Nahi Hoti
Himmat Karne Walon Ki Haar Nahi Hoti....

Nandan Nilekeni : On Freedom, De-construction and Being Resourceful

Nandan Nilekeni in conversation with Subroto Bagchi of Mindtree for the Zen Garden column in Forbes India.
Some excerpts here. Link to the original article:- (link)

SB: A lot of people fall short of their potential because they have inherent difficulty deconstructing themselves. Deconstruction is the ability to press a “reset” button at periodic intervals.
NN: Never thought of it like that but now that you say it, it is so true! I think in many instances I have pressed my “reset” button. From Bangalore to Dharwad and when I went from Dharwad to the IIT and then on to my professional career — it was another reset button and now this work is the latest reset in my life. So, I think my early experience gave me the self-confidence that I could go into a different environment and pull it off; that I can press the reset button.
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SB: Have you ever felt that life is about to destabilise you?
NN:
Yes, it has happened to me many times. Each time, I knew I am at the precipice, I have simply hunkered down, I have set myself to rethink everything and then I have gone back to make sense of what I am doing, to reflect on what has gone wrong here, how did I mess it up, then how do I solve the short-term problem of getting back my stability and then the long-term need of not repeating the mistake.
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SB: How does one hunker down?
NN:
You build capacity. It is a gradual, practiced process. You look at crisis in the context of the bigger goal. Suddenly, your setback does not look that big anymore. When you step back and see things in the context of your long-term goal, it helps you to re-calibrate the size of the problem. It is not that it is an inherited trait or something — I have learnt it over the last 30 years.  The other thing is that I just do what I need to and I do not worry.
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SB: A little while ago, you spoke about your “toolkit”. Show us your toolkit.
NN:
I have very strong analytics. I can step back from the problem, detach and look at it from another person’s view. I constantly re-evaluate my priorities and focus. I learn from mentors constantly. I have built a huge network. My network is not just within the software industry.  Through my network, I find that I am amplifying my capacity. I think the key thing for a leader is to amplify his capacity.
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SB: Tell us about how you model your network.
NN:
My model is Open Source. Ultimately, if you have a genuine interest in the other person, the bonding is immediate.  That is number one. You back that up with good memory. That is not easy. If I meet a person, I recall about the person instantly. My ability to reconnect is instant. I back it up with homework. I remember when I went to Davos and was meeting with 20 chief executives, I had their full bio-data with me. I prepare for it. The other part of networking is the linkages. If I meet someone today and meet another person tomorrow, and if I feel they both can add value to each other, I link them up. There is a biblical statement, “You cast your bread in water, and it comes back to you.”
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NN: I feel that “Freedom is having nothing left to prove”.  That is freedom. That is the capacity to do what I have to do.

Fear of being misunderstood

I am on my way back from Chennai where i had gone for my personal interview for XLRI. As i sit back and think about the interview, i am a little worried the panel might have misunderstood me. I am not so worried about being selected/rejected. Frankly, i am past the stage where i used to think that a degree could make or mar my career. I am sure that mba or no mba, eventually i'll make it good. But being misunderstood surely scares me.
One of the questions where i am afraid i might have been misunderstood is-




Q- So you switched from TCS to irunway.. And your salary jumped by X%.
(he calculated X wrt my current salary.. No wonder X was significantly large)
My Answer- yes sir, but over a period of two years....

And unfortunately this is where i stopped.. Or i guess the topic got changed.. I never explained that my real motivation for moving to iRunway was the profile.. In fact, when i first moved, my salary was nowhere close to my current package. In fact, the cost of staying independently had almost offset the increase in salary and the increment in my monthly take home was hardly anything to write home about.
But the sad part is, i never explained all this. I just said 'it has increased over time'.
Besides, i had also mentioned it amongst my long term objectives that i want to build a strong financial foundation for my family...
Just hope that the panel doesn't (wrongly) put 2 and 2 together and picturize me as a money-crazy guy who's doing his mba to chase a bigger pay package..

This is the problem with short interactions.. You might end up making unfair conclusions about people because you heard only one aspect of the story.. The short interaction did not leave enough time to explore the various layers to the person's answer.


My take away from this episode is-
When you haven't really 'interacted' with someone, you should avoid making any judgements about them. Its important to give people a chance. On the other hand, one must prepare adequately for such interactions. To me, it feels equivalent to faking it (at some level) as you are not being your natural self. But i guess there's no way out..

Skepticism v. Cynicism

What follows is a small excerpt from the commencement address given by Tom Friedman (the author of the 'The World Is Flat') at the Williams College, MA in 2005.
Btw, the address is titled 'Listen to your heart' and is really worth reading..
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Skepticism is about asking questions, being dubious, being wary, not being gullible, but always being open to being persuaded of a new fact or angle. Cynicism is about already having the answers -- or thinking you do -- answers about a person or an event. The skeptic says, "I don't think that's true; I'm going to check it out." The cynic says: "I know that's not true. It couldn't be. I'm going to slam him."
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So, to summarize it, a skeptic is the one who 'questions with an open mind' whereas a cynic 'opines with a pre-conceived notion'..
While the skeptic is actually in search for better info before he can start believing, the cynic is only there to push his opinions..
 
 

Gangu Teli v. Raja Bhoj

Devdutt Patnaik recently had this great post (link) about the deference between people who just implement and those who dream and ALSO implement.
 
Over the last year, I feel that I have become more of a implementer and lesser of a dreamer. Saying that this is (probably) the result of my working atmosphere would be being unfair - because finally we all are responsbile for what influences we chose.
 
Well - either way, here's a great post that has again reminded me of the importance of maintaing the fine (and extremely critical) balance between just dreaming (a la Sheikh Chilli) and just implementing (a la Gangu Teli - just focusing on acting in the present - looking at the current 'small' picture while completely forgetting about the BIGGER picture). (So in a way, this is also a continuation of my previous post..)
 
Some excerpts from the post by Devdutt:
 
Shekchilli is a dreamer.
 
Gangu Teli does not dream at all. He likes to implement things. He calls himself a 'realist' and focuses on practical things like doing the task and measuring their effectiveness and efficiency. That's what the world should be doing. He has a disdain for dreamers. He is the frontline warrior; he knows. When times are bad, he will be called upon to do the ultimate sacrifice. The buck stops with him as he stands in the market. He is therefore most valued in the immediate term. Since he knows that, he often suffers from an inflated self-importance.
 
Mitti ka Madhav - He is what you want to be. On his own, he is neither. He is a reactive member of the team, doing whatever pleases you, with no mind or opinion of his own.
 
That brings us to Raja Bhoj, the ideal leader, a dreamer as well as implementer.
(He then explains the behavioural difference between Gangu Teli and Raja Bhoj through an example.. really worth reading)
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The Small Picture and the BIG one too..

The Small Picture and the BIG one too..

The Context:
Its 8 p.m. and I am polishing off another proposal. Just like all others till date, this one also came with a short-ish deadline. We somehow managed a decent (I would like to believe) version and that too about just in time.

I send it across to the big bosses and wait for any changes that might be required. 10 mins pass and the feedback starts:

This assumption shouldn’t be here. Doesn’t make sense.
- I reply saying that I had included it using inputs from the delivery team and as far as delivery goes : who knows better?

Now, 5 minutes later, I sit back and think about the assumption and realise that boss wasn’t wrong after all.

Maybe the assumption was valid – but surely the language needed to be better
(as in – while the assumption made sense from a strictly delivery standpoint - given the BIGGER business context in which the proposal was being sent, it surely did not make sense)

So, why did I not spot it in the first place?

My guess is: when I was busy getting the proposal in place, with all the 10 sections.. with inputs on pricing, exec methodology, etc coming from 3 different sources..
I was more focused on getting the smaller (yet very important) things right...

Is the formatting in place?
Is the English correct?
Is the content complete?

That’s what I was worrying about. I was looking at the document through a magnifying glass, making sure that I don’t miss the minute details – while assuming that the inputs that I was getting were correctly thought through.

But turns out that while thinking about the tactical issues, I did lose the BIGGER picture.

While getting the minute details is mandatory – you do not get any brownie points for getting them right. Its part of ‘hygiene’.

But if you miss the BIGGER picture – you could end up losing the project all together.

So – its mandatory that I quickly master the art of checking the small picture while not missing out on the BIGGER one too.

(I know that I am capable of doing it. Just that the challenge is doing both in a crunch situation where having time is a luxury.)

Read It Like Your Reader Would

In the last 3 days, there have been a few occasions when I have sent out a mail to mail and somebody (a 3rd party observer) has pointed out possible instances in the mail which could lead to potential misunderstandings for the final reader..

This has led me to add his step just before I finally hit the send button: read the mail like your reader would read it..
I just tried it, and I already think it works!

I guess most people would say that checking your mail in this fashion is a part of protocol..
But I guess I had started giving lesser importance to this step as censoring my own mails seemed tantamount to compromising on my thought process - I was just very concerned about doing complete justice to my thought train.. Tailoring my mail to 'suit' the reader felt like a compromise.. Something I wasn't really cool about.

Well, such a compromise is still not acceptable. So, now while I do review each mail, I do make sure that I convey my thoughts - however dis-comforting they might be for the end reader - but I also go slightly out of my way to prevent mis-communication..

That leads me to the next 'natural' question: should I also tailor my blog posts to suit my friends who read it? Should I change it in anyway to prevent potential misunderstandings?
I guess, the answer is no - I am pretty sure that these friends will be friends enough to comment/mail back in case they need any clarifictaions / or there are any misunderstandings..

Go without them - A great post from Seth Godin

Link to the original post: here

One of the most common things I hear is, "I'd like to do something remarkable like that, but my xyz won't let me." Where xyz = my boss, my publisher, my partner, my licensor, my franchisor, etc.

Well, you can fail by going along with that and not doing it, or you can do it, cause a ruckus and work things out later.

In my experience, once it's clear you're willing (not just willing, but itching, moving, and yes, implementing) without them, things start to happen. People are rarely willing to step up and stop you, and often just waiting to follow someone crazy enough to actually do something.

I'm going. Come along if you like.

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